I definitely agree with you that it is a problematic representation of the ethos of kink and BDSM, which are thoroughly and beautifully based in active consent and clear boundaries.

It seemed more like more of a loss of control fantasy to me, with a Chosen One trope? I haven’t read that book since it came out, so it’s not fresh in my mind, but as I remember it, I agree with you that I didn’t read the Anastasia/Christian dynamic precisely a rape fantasy. I think we were talking about Fifty Shades of Grey when this came up. I argue that the 2012 D/s fantasy is more of a misunderstanding of the D/s culture than in relation to either of these things. Most women, however, have ravishment fantasy, which is the concept of 'this isn't my fault because he wants me so much, I can't resist' aka, what we were just discussing as far as not having to choose. There are submissive masochists who genuinely have that fantasy. Kill Clayton, and fast: Because if she doesn’t, he will 100% kill her first.įrom Leslee: Rape fantasy in is the fantasy of being violently violated. And I think Nicky is genuinely in love with her and intends his dominating air to be read as a flirtation to be playfully parried back.in contrast with Clayton’s menacing expressions of his rage-driven desire to conquer Whitney. Marry Nicky: They could go back to Paris where people appreciate Whitney rather than desire to crush her spirit. Sleep with Paul: It would be extremely perfunctory and he would not care about her pleasure, but he wouldn’t sexually assault her, at least.

Upon rereading the book as a grown woman, if I had to do a f*ck/marry/kill on Whitney’s suitors.I’d want her to: I totally get that!! Here’s where I’m at in my own journey: as a youth, I was completely in the tank for Clayton. From Kate: I always thought Whitney should have ended up with Nicolas!

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